More and more lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) and partners decide to raise their children. Many of them choose to use surrogacy to establish their own family. Their concern is how best to raise and protect their children. Before starting a family, they can use psychological education and legal counseling to consider how to deal with these challenges.

Consulting services focus on the best interests of future generations and should include the following four themes:

Medical plan and matters needing attention:

Prospective parents should understand the most suitable family building plan based on their age, gender, fertility and personal health. For gay or lesbian people who want to become parents, if they want to have children, they must seek help from a third party. This third party may be a carrier of pregnancy (surrogate mother), a donor of eggs, sperm or embryos, or a combination of both. They need to know exactly how and where to find a suitable third-party medical staff.

Knowledge of laws and regulations:

The laws on same-sex parenting vary from state to state (country to country). Special laws on civil unions, same-sex legal marriages, and parent-child relationships will have a great influence on how these people choose to establish a family. It is important to understand that the legal rights in a jurisdiction do not necessarily apply to other states. They can conduct legal consultations to clarify the rights of both partners as parents.

Social and cultural environment:

Counseling services can help individuals (including children and parents) to cope with the social and cultural challenges faced by same-sex couples and LGBT families. LGBT families are sometimes marginalized and discriminated against. These prejudices are sometimes obvious and sometimes subtle. Parents can also teach their children how to deal with inappropriate or hurtful situations and remarks with the help of counseling services.

The study found that in terms of emotional development or interpersonal relationships, children in families of same-sex couples and children in families of heterosexual couples are no different. Studies have shown that the health of a child depends on the quality of the parent-child relationship, not the sexual orientation of the parents.

Personal prejudice and emotional tests:

LGBT people sometimes have personal prejudices and concerns about their sexual orientation and the right to raise children. These attitudes may be derived from their life experiences, or they may have negative opinions about their sexual orientation. These prejudices and concerns may affect the relationship between parents and children.

Before raising children with the help of assisted reproductive technology, it will be helpful if they can recognize these prejudices. The topic of consultation may include whether he/she(s) disclose their sexual orientation to family members, friends, colleagues or people around them.

When these prospective parents need assisted reproductive intervention to raise their children, their concerns and worries will increase. Psychological education counseling can help them cope with their feelings about blood connection, concerns about third-party helpers, and social prejudice.

Other issues that may arise during the consultation include:

• How should same-sex couples inform their children? What should I tell?

• How to talk to the child about the donor or surrogate mother?

• How to answer the question of who is the child’s “real parent”?

• The rights and responsibilities of "real parents" in today's society have been clearly defined and respected. Do non-biological parents who have no blood relationship have the same status as "real parents"?

After clearly understanding the above information, what should I do?

What is the first step?

The first step is to simply contact our account manager and get accurate information from the beginning, which will have an impact on your life and the future of a child. Egg donors, sperm donors, surrogate mothers... You have many different options.

Choose a surrogate mother, egg donor or sperm donor

We have a high-quality egg donor database. Compared with other agencies, we also have the friendliest and healthiest surrogate mothers. By browsing the specific information of the egg donor or sperm donor, you can get a rough picture of your child, eye color, height/weight, exercise ability, intelligence, etc. Of course, just because your biological parents won the Olympic gold medal does not guarantee that your children will achieve the same achievement, but they have the same genes. Then choose a surrogate mother to help you build a beautiful family.

The most important thing is to consider what kind of relationship you want to establish with your surrogate mother. Our surrogate mothers are all friendly and educated. However, they also work professionally and respect the opinions of prospective parents. There are some prospective parents who only want to maintain a minimum number of contacts with the surrogate mother – this is fine. We can match a surrogate mother as you requested. Or, you want a surrogate mother living in your area to participate more actively in the surrogacy journey or related activities. We also have surrogate mothers who especially want to cooperate with LGBT+ parents, or they are LGBT+ people themselves. You have many good choices.